Truth about Sado Masochism? It is nothing than Adult Role Play games.

Just like a Singer sell DVDs, a Web Designer sells sites memberships. I do not want a membership sites myself. I do not think that this part of my life is important at the point of erecting a members’ area. To me, SM Session and Web Design are just activities and not a destiny. CONSISTENT work will probably make them very lucrative, but I have to underline that I like being occupied with my fingers and body everyday. Most of you think that this is a quest for erotism. You get it wrong, this is a way to balance my cerebral personality. I quitted SM already 3 or 4 times or should I say 3 or 4 years? Being blazé by it will not come quickly to me, the flip side I realize today is that I will be in it then longuer than expected! It is not silly to tell you why I interrupted SM more than once: Checking sites content was making me nauseous and sick. One day, I had the opportunity to discover through a Webmaster with a film studio, that some of these sites are mosly good computer montages with some lemonade and ketchup, dolls and photoshop. You can actually buy a whole membership sites with simulated cruaulties by Models and just replace your face with one click, wiothout never meeting the people in the movies you are playing in it. High quality photos are actually photos of movies, which can be kept 10 years and modified a thousand times. Well, that is why I will never let ME participate in such a movie, but this took away my disgust of SM images forever. Original great content exist, but they are still staged and scripted stuff. But now my sites are doing great with a persistant schedule of a couple of hours a day, so why throw away the tomatoes paychecks? The demand is big and “weird” people are kept away from messing up with the lives of innocent conventional ones. You never thought about my good action side part of SM, didn’t you? But this good samaritan way of thinking is the ONLY motive, which launched me into Domination to start with! Be careful, I must be the only person in SM thinking like this, the only living MONSTERS I met in my life is someone in SM though, but what do you know, the real defintion of SM is this: it is a scene of consensual crime! Still, no crime for me, because I am a bit an internet police concerning Good and Wrong in real life already. But wasting my time on telling people how they must live is not my cup of tea, I just do not mingle with them.
StarParis is a complete Domina Guide with a Directory of non-dangerous Mistresses worldwide, offering Femdom and Fetish Movies and VOD. The list is limited, because once I hear something tangibly negative about a Dominatrix, I delete her. I still have a few junkies and fraudulent trans listed but I never heard about them stealing people, consequently I leave it to the jugement of my visitors. But a great Mistress site would not be perfect without kinky classified ads, Alt.com created a portal of PERSONALS, sponsored by my scene’s Black Mistress Lara Victore. And by the way, my ADULT ONLY personal site is LaraVictore.com. I am a real existing independant Dominatrix and a Private Therapist. I do Domination part-time, otherwise I might not like it anymore! Part-time to me, means not more than 2 sessions a day, while a full-time Dominatrix will give an average of four sessions a day. It is important to tell that SM has nothing to do with prostitution, and that some Pros have been able to pay their College with the tribute but they prefer to keep this part out of their resumé, as this is still a misunderstood profession.
As a Dominatrix, as I am found to be pretty, strict and truly impressive, I have submissives who beg to extend their one hour session to 5 or 8 hours. This happens to me quite often. And I would rather continue a session that I like and take a break, than go to the unknown. But as a Therapist, I am faced with the wrong part of SM and lately, starting 2010, in France more and more people are calling me to inform me about these incredibly sad or cruel-in-the-wrong-way events and people in the SM. Basically, the majority of the sites that you see are lying about their Mistress. You got anything in reality, from the woman aged 75 years old, posting photos where she looks 25, while she actually is a man to the cruelest whatever who is actually someone always available and who must be instructed by the submissive. Aren’t you surprised that I have a few photos, intead of a 1000 but have the highest ranked SM Site in France, according Alexa? It is because submissives knows that I am truly who I say I am and I seem gorgeous to them in real life. All the 1000 dominatrix that are starting a site every year, might just be that, a Model on a site and not a Dominatrix.

What is Sado-Masochism, Domination and Submission?
I do not recommend, nor promote the SM lifestyle to the public. Not that I am against it, I think that it is better to have a own path leading to the SM adventure than being co-erced by a Professional, and the most influential woman in the Domination totally by accident, me. I do not want to be responsible for other people’s choice of sexuality, especially as SM can be DESTRUCTIVE and dangerous, as well. More importantly, I am writing this document to inform you about what Sado-Masochism is not. On March 26th 2010, I have laughed to tears when someone sent me an angry letter about me saying that I am not promoting SM. No, I still do not, period. I am not here to defend this article. I have my own opinion, identity, knowledge of the truth in the large scope of things and no one can take this from me, expecially not a empty, doomed to hell guy- but I found this revealing article for you in Times POSTED IN MARCH 19, ONE MONTH AFTER THIS BLOG, and this person says the same about not wanting to recommend SM In the Secfret Life of a Dominatrix.

Someone recently told me that SM is a whole “World of secrecy”, meaning that BDSM is a powerful secret society hiding some secret goal. Well that is not true. SM and Domination are not an institution to start with, because any reader can enter its intimity, called THE SCENE, in less than one minute by clicking the right link. This is the Femdom Penthouse that you can reach only by searching the Penthouse Magazine! Do not be fooled by words such as Worship, supremacy, temple, glory, queen, femdom and alike, they are just a terminology to beautify the whole game, sell the marchandise or have fun during SM role plays or sexual desires. Since I called myself Queen in 2008, many have made this a trend in the hope of stealing clients. Before me, there was already 2 Queens in Germany, but they were clearly using the terminology as Queen of Facesitting or Queen of Something else, which was different. But this is not the funniest, if a Dominatrix is using a terminology such as the most, the last and other megalomaniac words or has too much hair, too much booby, a face that seemed to have been glued to a body by photoshop (some sites have simply 6 different women pretending to be one), you are in the presence of a woman who has nothing, because first of all this is a man.

The main goals of BDSM (bondage, domination, submission, sadism and masochism)
– Orgasm, money or both, mostly without intercourse but with lenghty role plays repacing the sexual foreplay
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Sado-Masochism is just another ADULT lifestyle. It takes place in a non-existing dimension called “The Scene”. Many think when they start in SM, that “The Scene”, that they have landed in a special place. Because the terminology “The Scene” was first associated with the name of Jesus Christ in history, and they remember it in their subconciensce only. This is why many people engaged in SM are depressed or higing depression. Burying depression leads to bizarre behaviours, such as insulting and bullying others in SM forums or simply being a loser in life. The only way to be a sane Player is to recognize that this is just an activity that should not be given more importance than it deserves. I have loved playing basket ball for years, I do not wake up in the middle of the night to switch on my PC and look for basket ball news. I have no urge to be called a good basket ball fan, as a matter of fact, none of my friends know that I have played basket ball and been very good in scoring, considering that I am not even tall!
Sado-Masochism is purely an entertainment platform with codes, costumes, terminology which has only ONE goal: sexual liberation. It is sex without intercourse and with lengthy role plays as foreplay. T

Why not sex, period? Only because of any of these six reasons:
- A SM or Domination session last longuer than sex. Should someone suffers from premature ejaculation or half-impotency, this would not even be noticable in SM or Domination.
- A usually rejected man or woman suddenly becomes wanted and can experience the feeling of being desired because SM or Domination/submission works mostly on compatibility factors (In SM, the average intelligent thinker is persuaded that other factors such as beauty, compatibility of characters or even meeting in real life do not count)
-In many countries prostitution is illegal, while BDSM is legal, because neglected by law makers
- People over 40 are not considered mature and older people can play because of the 3 preceeding reasons
- It is a hiding place, for example, to this transexual man , addvertising to be the most beautiful Girl in Florida but unable to find anyone who actually would like to wake up at his her side or spend 24 hours with him or her
- Money. The existence of the above categories creates a worldwide offer-demand network, automatically. These people going in it for the money, are forcibly not the baddest ones, someone’s got to do the job! I do not blame them, because when they meet somone REAL in The Scene, the money isssue is over, they build real good relationships. But unfortunately, The Scene is now overcrowded with charlatans, scammers and any good girl who saw a Dominatrix site and hired a webmaster. Last year, I had many letters of women who were persuaded that they were born to become Dominatrix, especially when they read my site LaraVictore.Com. I tried to convince them that the Woman I am is not who she is thanks to SM, and that half of my money comes from other activities than Domination, they went around and built a site anyway, adding in it that they had many years of experience!
- Some fantasies can come to live in SM but only those who occurs in real live sessions. Online stufff is just a game, but who am I to blame those who love that? Punishment Square is one of the best sites for online sessions with Dominatrixes.


A French magazine recently wrote about “How People are still fascinated with Marquis de Sade”. It is an obvious lie for these following reasons:
1. First of all, if Sadism is associated with The French Marquis de Sade, masochism, at the other end is connected to the Austrian Leopold von Sacher-Masoch.
2. No one enters The Scene of Sado-Masochism or Domination in order to please The Marquis nor Sacher-Masoch. And the day that it becomes advertised that Sado-Masochism started in the Aristocracy, it might lose many adepts.

And by the way Marquis de Sade was so afraid of his wife that he had to beg her to bring him tea in jail in 4 long POLITE letters. I read some of them, and adding their extracts here will just be a bit depressing! Funny that they are today protected by copyright, while this man’s writings meant for him a free sure ticket to jail and mental institution, once upon a time.

What is the level of public, advertised, glorified S and M?
Basically, nothing. Let me start first with explaining the behaviour of born Sadistic men or women. None of these born Sadistic man or woman has a public site, flattering his penchant for pain. The majority of Sadistic people are generally in denial, another part is in jail or mental institution (For example this man who was killing Gays and eating them out his refrigerator, the couple who kidnapped E. Smart for example or more recently this incestuous Father in Australia, but these are the extreme ones) and the rest of them is hunting in the Vanilla world. NEVER advertising sadism is the main part of being a Sadist. A very small percentage of Sadists seek therapeutic help…ashamed or plagued by remorse. But they are part of another category of Real Sadistic, the spiritually intelligent one or genious Sadistic. This last category have the advantage of mastering his sex life thanks to his spiritual quest or values learned at home, you will never find them in jail, forums, myspace, searching for a Partner. Any Sadist trait is that he must keep bound to him or her the physical presence of his partner. This intelligent Sadist, a minority, has a very kinky sexual or fantasy life. But he WANTs to hide it well; and he can. The thought of being listed with notorious Criminals is one of the factors that will force them to hide, even if they will not be able to hurt someone their whole life.

What about SM sites, submissives, coarse words, cruel images?
They are just expressions of adult fantasies. What actually teases public SM Players (This is how I will refer to OVERT SM Playera and Seekers) is the whole process of communicating in a certain way, doing things that changes the energy of power in their mind, wearing costumes, dungeons, internet use or easy-to-get use, naked images and the forbidden or taboo side of their games. Is this legendary feeling of power fake? Yes and No. Beating up a man or woman who is already submissive, masochist and asking for it, is not power, it might be labour. The majority of Sadistic player, a good 70 percent, usually has never experienced self-esteem at home or has been abused. The remaining part just like it as adult recreational activities.
But having pleasure because of pain exist only for public Sadistic people who are physically masochist. The pleasure that
public Sado Masochism glorify in site comes, after my studies, from the lack of disgust or fear when inflicting pain. Aside, like in sexuality, which is actually invented for healing and family building purposes, many Sadistic Players have
emotional problems that they want to lose, loving pain is truly a paradox. The well celebrated feeling of power is actually an illusion that lasts a determined time. Power is never connected to domination or submission, and if it had to be forcibly connected to any of them, it will be submission; The GRAIN of Power felt is truly physical, because if it was real, people in SM will be ruling the world and making it a better place, most of them cannot even dominate themselves to read this with open mind. There are so many SM Players because Sado-Masochism is the one of the oldest forms of confession and purification, rooting in the Catholic Church. Marquis de Sade did not invent it, he paganised it, whilst stunningly bored in jail. Once again, De Sade was a prince charming to his Lady all his life.

Again, It is not the PRESENCE of pain that excites the public Sadistic, it is ABSENCE of disgust and fear when hurting, that gives him or her the feeling of excitation and an illusion of strength.

What about the masochist or submissive one?
The real submissive and masochist lives also truly in denial, but he will settle preferably with a dominant partner. Public or conscious masochism is as easy as ABC. In less than 2 hours, a good Sadistic Player or Master can reverse your body, actually brain, to feel pleasure in case of pain, period. And if you do not reverse this before 2 weeks to 60
days, your body will keep getting a pleasure stimulus in case of pain. Which brings me to another SM myth, Real Sadistic folks do not operate their bodies to change gender as this is a sure mark of auto-mutilation, auto-submission to them. There is no such thing as Tranny Domme. Do not be that stupid, this is a obvious desperate gesture to get money. But if you look very
well, many SM sites have old photoshoped Trans screaming women supremacy! Who never read the oxy-moron statement FEMALE DOMINATION BY A MISTRESS? A man wantint to be feminine or sissifyed, at the other token, is truly a woman’s worshipper.

Where are Real Sadistic folks then, except from jails or hospitals?
You can find them in all fields of the society. Real Sadistic one can be Criminal, Business Man or Woman, Therapist,
Entertainer, Politician, Preacher or just a clean looking man with a solid family image. Real Sado go after non-consenting folks and some of them truly ask for therapeutic help. The small time mental Sadist treatment that people get from
racists for example, is more frequent but can also more destructive. Guess what? You can get it from a Post Office Clerk!
The public Submissive looking for pleasures in sites and forums will not even attract the attention of a real Sadistic man or woman. Sadistic will find this kind of submissive one repulsive without even being able to explain why most of the times! Slightly aware Sadistic folks are usually attracted to submissives in denial and strangely enough their couples usually stay together longer than the conventional one!

You must ask me this: Can good Real SM people be good partners, because of what I said previously?
Yes and they will not leave you for a small disagreement. If a playing Dominant woman wants to be happy, she actually has to find her obedient real submitting man and train him; the good news is that they are everywhere if you know how to read the signs and…yes they truly are yummy! Real submissive run to open your door, kneels quicky when you drop something 3 times without complaining and most importantly, try to anticipate how to please you before you say a word, but the most charming thing is that they do not realize anything about their submission! NO ONE CAN FAKE TRUE SUBMISSION BECAUSE IT IS FIRST OF ALL, A BEHAVIOUR MOTIVATED FROM A VERY GENTLE, CARING HEART and not from leather hoods, whips and cuffs.
I am sure that some of you, by the way, met, at least, one man or woman who went from being assertive to submissive after falling in love. And if you don’t, you have not lived. He was submissive all the time, but had not found his Dominant woman yet! Another point is this: it is common knowledge, that public submissive men look for a Domina to dominate them after manipulation when they are bored with vanilla or just rejected. It does not take a Scientist to figure out that it is truly the Submissive who dominates in public Sado-Masochism, in the sense that he is getting the best part, what he wants.

Why are people stating that they are sadistic, masochist, submissive or dominants then?

Many Dommes work for one single Webmaster. Some of these Dommes have literally be found on the street. A few junkies are also stuck in this profession. But this is not my work to criticize, judge or even think about giving names that one of these Webmasters gave me. Some of their sites are in
Being SM player can ruin your life, it will do it progressively. But SM has SOME advantages that are acceptable and other that are to be reported to the Authorities. A good part of is dangerous and has the scum of the Earth, as it is the only erotic place where people can wear masks; Some of this usually fake advantages are,
- Money. It is legal work.
- It gives the impression of being accepted in a group
- The Scene offers sexual release, I am not saying sexual intercourse. All these people in SM pretend in forums not to like porn. That is true sometimes, only after being tired of porn or rejection. They switch to Dominants or submissives, especially when it is free. The risky part is what makes it interesting. The risk gives the impression that something is truly happening in
their lives
-It it the place to be for those who are trying to recruit new gays or just gays
who are tired of gays
- It gives illusions, exaggerated illusions becomes addictive and playing SM is a place to escape from reality or hidden heavy culpability
- In some countries, I will not name, it is the ONLY most paying job that someone waiting for a work permit can practise because of its secrecy
- It is a Paradise for illegal photos. The proof is that the standard sentence on a slave application says, I am not into c… but I would not mind if you Mistress wants that. YUK. I reject these subs because they protect criminals like
Garatino or this father in Austria. And if you Mistress have been with a Submissive Player who does not want you suddenly, it might be that he is around for c…porn business but he has been using you to cover up his business. Good riddance, his standards letters are exhausted for you he is already lying to another Mistress. Please do not be ashamed to report anything
illegal of you have one proof.

All these men who are crying for real Sadistic women are not even real submissive in the first place. A real submissive knows how to find his dominant woman and to keep her, I will hang up the phone to the someone who insists on high level of Sadism, because such a man behaves actually like a stupid dominant zombie. He considers women inferior creature who must do anything to please him. It is still a very good thing to find a woman who agrees to spank a butt.

CONCLUSION
If you think at it well, fake Sadistic or submissive Players can have a lot of fun. SM, Dominants and submissives Players are in touch with their bodies desires and fantasy, if they are reasonably considerate, respectful and faitfhfull.

This kind of blog, will make some of them scream that they are true, right they are true Players.

If you find out that your Brother is in Fake SM, do not worry BUT try to communicate him about the destructive path of SM when you feel that the time is right. Fake SM, at least, makes vanilla taste fantastic ever after or the day your family member get bored by faking SM. If it is Real Sado-Masochism, as long as, he does not do anything illegal or dangerous do not worry for him. The Sex Addict is a form of auto-submission or auto-domination; they are sex slaves. You do not date your Brother, so relax.